Sep 11, 2009

AdoptionWeek e-Magazine - 08 September 2009

 I know this has been covered many times before, but I thought I'd write about the one thing adoptive families fear most. For a lot of us, it's even more frightening than the prospect of a long wait. It's the Home Study. Oh, no! You have to spend at least a week cleaning your house. You have to have endless interviews. Every person you've ever met in your entire life will also be subjected to endless interviews. Your life will, basically, be under a magnifying glass, just to see if you and your family make a suitable candidate for raising a child. All this comes, for a good many of us, after a struggle with infertility. more
Post Adoption Depression Syndrome (PADS)

This is a very difficult post for me to write. I've felt strongly inclined to share my experiences with this topic, but at the same time, that doesn't make it any easier for me to say the words. After Aidan was born, I had a touch of what's best defined as the "baby blues". There were days that were rough, but for the most part, I just felt a little down. I was—and still am—blessed with a tremendous support team: my husband, my family and friends, an excellent OB and my amazing PCP. more

3. Highlighted Articles

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Caring for Your African American or Biracial Child's Hair - Mahisha Dellinger

Over the years I've read, seen, and experienced unbelievable acts of ignorance regarding ethnic hair care. It is my attempt to provide a few basic tips and tricks so you will avoid common pitfalls.more

Blended Family/Kids in Distress: What to Do? - Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

It is safe to assume that most parents will enter into a new relationship post separation/divorce, many resulting in a combination of children. The issue then becomes how to manage the new relationship in view of the kids and how to manage the adjustment process. When children appear significantly distressed in a newly blended family, the other natural parent may take them to counseling as a means to investigate the distress or help them cope. Unfortunately however while this provides a sense that something is being done, often little is accomplished.more

Raising Kids Transracially - Ann Freeman

When we chose to adopt interracially, we carefully considered what parenting children of color would mean for us and our future kids. We wanted to provide our children with natural, ongoing contact with people with whom they shared cultural identity. We wanted our kids to be in an environment where friends, neighbors and other community members included many people of their ethnicity...more

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4. Adoption News

Legal fatherhood must be determined by more than DNA - The Vancouver Sun -

In Quebec, DNA confirmation that a man has no genetic link to his partner's child offers no legal basis for challenging his paternity -- at least, not when he's on the birth documents and has reared the child as his own. So says the Quebec Court of Appeal in a judgment that the Supreme Court of Canada recently refused to more and discuss

Mom Can End Stepfather's Visits - The Deseret News -

The Utah Court of Appeals has ruled a Utah mother has the right to terminate a stepfather's visitation rights to their daughter after their divorce. In a ruling with implications for the rights of stepparents to visit children after a divorce, the court of appeals ruled a mother can terminate her ex-husband's legal standing to petition a court for more and discuss

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5. Featured Waiting Children

Raven (2/96) is a very pretty young lady with a great sense of humor. Raven has made great improvement in school. She is an intelligent child and does well in school. She makes average grades and has improved in managing her behaviors in school...more

6. Meet New Hopeful Adoptive Parents

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Gregory & Billinda (IA)

We would love and care for your precious baby more than can be humanly expressed. We both have had first hand, personal experience with adoption and feel we understand the issues and emotions associated. Please see what we have to offer your child...more

Are you pregnant? Visit (a service of Adoption Profiles, L.L.C.) to choose who you feel will be the right adoptive parents for your baby.

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7. Adoption Gem

"Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them."
-- Richard L. Evans
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8. Adoption Buzz

Adoptee Support - She loved you so much she chose adoption...

"She loved you so much she chose adoption" or any other variation of that oft said statement. As a child put in context with society at the time, it was a logical statement to as an adult the phrase seems like an oxymoron, love and giving away...more

Birth Mothers Support - new- needing to talk

Hi, I gave up my beautiful baby girl,Jessica on the 17th June 2009. I love her with all my heart and soul. I had to let her go because it was the best for her, I have no support, no job and no where to live and my partner did not want a baby. I had no choice. I'm so sad and alone and have no one to talk to about what happened...more

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9. Just for the Fun of It

Child Psychology

A new teacher thought she would use what she learned in her psychology courses. She said to her class, "Everyone who thinks they are stupid, please stand up."

After a few seconds, one boy stood. "Do you think you're stupid?" she asked.

"No, ma'am, but I just didn't want you to have to stand there all by yourself."

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11. Adoption Poetry

Precious Gift

In my arms I held
The most precious thing
Known to mankind
With ten little fingers
And ten little toes
Hair of brown and eyes of blue
So little and fragile
I didn't want to let go
As she looked up at me
With such uncertain eyes
She gave out a little cry
There I knew I had to let go
I placed her in the arms
Of one that could not bear her own
But could give her all I could not
This person I know will take great
Care of her
Her life will be happy and secure
This I trust with faith and love
© Sharon Roberts
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